Are you doing everything in your power to be the best you possibly can be? When you think about how you want your life to be in your head, are you portraying the actions necessary to become that person?
These are questions that many people do not ask themselves but truly need to do so in order to fulfill what they actually want in life. I asked myself this at a young age and gave myself a head start because I had mentors to help me realize I needed to do this.
For me one of the things that helped me get my life on the right tract to where I wanted to end up was by reading “The Hero Handbook“, by Nate Green. Definitely one of the best reads I’ve had and it is a fairly small book (and free, click the link ;)). But it is straight forward and makes you realize what you need to do and what you want.
Rule Your Life
First thing you need to do when it comes to living a lifestyle that you truly want to live is setting rules to live by. Best way to do this is to take out a pad and pen, then list the ways you believe an ideal lifestyle would live by. If you believe in helping people, then make a rule to always put others first. This is whats going to set you up to be the type of person you truly want to be. If you have rules you must abide by, why not make sure they are the rules you believe in. These rules are to be followed at all times under any circumstance, they are your life rules.
Build a Body
This is something that is very important for many reasons, but mainly to make sure you have a great level of happiness. If you are fit and love your body you will be much happier. Being fit and healthy has been proven to reduce depression, stress, fatigue, and over all negativity. It has also been proven to increase hormone function, happiness, work productivity, life span, and so much more I do not have the time to list them all out! The point is that this is a must if you plan to live the lifestyle you want, even if you do not necessarily love training it is a fact that your ideal lifestyle does not include the description fat, lazy, or unproductive. Build a body of a hero, something to be proud of, and something that will not enable you to experience things. If someone asks you to go rock climbing, surfing, or some other extreme event don’t let your body be your limiting factor. It is your job to create the body that can withstand any event or experience.
Seek Enjoyment in Life
This goes hand in hand with creating a great body, because a great body is needed for a lot of life experiences that you can enjoy. People always get caught in the “I’ll do that someday” type of attitude, which is horrible. If you want to do something then you should go and figure out how to do that thing as soon as possible. Why wait around hoping for an opportunity to come around?! Things are not handed to you in life, you must be the go getter. So start planning vacations and events, life is all about experiences that create memories. I am such a firm believer in this rule because when I’m old and about to die I want to be able to look back on many memories with the people I love. Who in the hell would want to look back on life and not have anything great to show for?…. Nobody! So start creating memories with your loved ones, even if it’s just a single day out in the city. You can always find new things to do, or old things that are still fun. The point is to go and do it, no more waiting around.
Make Time to Play
This is another huge one just to simply keep yourself level-headed and unstressed. People work all day, get stressed out because of it and then decide they just need to go home and “relax” (sit on a couch and watch TV, usually). So start planning more time where you can simply do the things you love to do, whether that’s playing a sport, going camping, or going fishing. The point is that you are enjoying your life on a somewhat regular basis. People lose sight of this at an early age and I do not understand why.
Create Your Career
Everybody needs a job, but why not create a career? It takes much more hard work and dedication, but anything that is great in life calls for that. Seeking success or having a good sense of achievement is important when creating an awesome life. You should be happy with your career when your reach the peak, not look back on the last ten years and realize you’ve been working with accomplishing anything major. Figure out what you want and go after it, simple as that. There are may steps to success and one of the largest steps is realizing what it is you want to achieve, and then mapping out how to get there step by step. Like I said it is difficult and may take a long time, but in the end it is more than worth the achievement you feel.
You must be confident with who you are and what you believe in. Confidence will get you further in every aspect in life because people can recognize confidence instantly, but it also will create a better you because you will be happy with yourself. When you walk into a room full of people and rule the floor with confidence, they will instantly look up to you with respect. It is harder for some than others, but with practice anyone can accomplish a great sense of confidence. If that means speaking in front of large groups or simply just trying new things you’re not used too, it will create some confidence. It also takes some self coaching to create this confidence, you need to tell yourself that you are happy with your life and where its going. And if you cannot say to yourself that you are happy with this, then you need to reevaluate your life and what you are doing so you can become confident again.
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
Without getting uncomfortable you will never grow as a person, because you are trapped in your bubble. When people stay in their comfort zone they will not try new things or explore avenues that could teach them many lessons in life. If your about to go into something that makes your heart race or gives you butterflies in your stomach, keep going! Don’t get scared and turn away because your about to do something that will make you grow in some way, or it could lead to something new that will make you happy. This has been displayed in many books and lectures of very successful people, it is what it takes to be successful or to create a life worth living. When you think of something you want to accomplish or achieve in life ask yourself, have you ever done it before? Have you performed the steps necessary already? The answer will be no, and that is some proof of the need to get uncomfortable.
Creating relationships in life is so important for so many reasons it will be hard to cover them all. But we were made to interact and to have experiences with others. Life is not meant to spend alone, so create relationships with as many people as you can. Not only will this create more enjoyment in your life, but you will learn so much from people. I truly believe I have learned more just from spending time with a wide variety of people then I ever did in school. Each person has gone through different things in life, lived in different places, and have spent time with different people who they’ve learned from. So when you decide to start creating relationships, not only will you learn from how they think but also from everything they’ve learned from their experiences. I have created relationships with people who I would not give up for anything in this world, because I cherish the relationship and care for them so much. So meet people, go out and experience different things to create great memories for an awesome life.
Last but not least, be a DREAMER! Nothing great will come to you if you don’t shoot for the stars. Set your goals low and you will achieve low-level goals. If your goals are a dream of yours, you will always achieve higher goals because the ultimate dream is far away. This can be the biggest motivating factor in life. People will try to tell you that you are aiming to high but that is a load of crap, you can never aim to high. Sky is the limit, so reach for the stars and start creating a lifestyle worth telling a story about. My goal in life, and should be all of yours too, is to not be forgotten when I die. And the only way to do this is to create a lifestyle people care about and want to share with others. Leave a legacy after you die.
“Everyone dies twice, once at your last breath.. And once when your name is spoken for the last time” -Unknown